Picking your battles

Today I drew the card "divine acceptance". To accept what is, in that moment. Today it became clear that this was a reminder for me to pick my battles.
I am struggling, as I suppose many women do, with finding that delicate balance between doormat and bitch. Add in a day where you are just plain ornery.
We spent the morning cleaning out the basement - a continuation of last weekends major garage overhaul. This was successful in terms of getting things accomplished, but not as successful as last weekend as far as keeping a positive atmosphere amongst the workers (hubby and I). He kept putting stuff in the keep box, and I couldn't understand why he was keeping what I would consider junk. Then came the bookshelves...as book enthusiasts, we have quite the library. But as much as I don't like getting rid of books, I am getting better at looking at books thinking "I hated that book and will never read it again, get rid of it." Even books that I had gotten as a child (with happy birthday or merry christmas in the cover), but did not read. If I didn't read them then, I most likely won't read them now.
Andy seems more reluctant to weed out the library. I think we have more books on military history and tactics than any military library.
So the first key was to not be judgemental, which was getting difficult. The second key was to just accept that this is how it was meant to be. Pick my battles. Realizing that in the heat of the moment, it wasn't the time to press the issue.
The afternoon redeemed the morning. The Weight Watcher's I attend recently moved buildings, and today was their official "grand opening". Had a great afternoon with a group of women who are quickly becoming friends.
After the reception (which included cake - at weight watchers!) Andy decided to run a few errands in the same mall. One of the women suggested that we go for coffee while he did his errands. A great hour of good companionship. What more can you ask for? Plus the afternoon out and the additional company cleared the stressful atmosphere of the house, so all is quiet on the homefront.

Til tomorrow, when the decluttering continues :)